Back from the South

I flew from Bishkek (in the North—look at the map on this site) to Osh (in the South) on December 24^th. I went down there with Tynara, my colleague from AUCA, and Mirlan, one of my research assistants. The plan was to stay in Osh for three or four days to collect about 6 interviews, then down to Isfana, if the very southernmost corner of Batken province in between Uzbekistan and Tajikstan for another 7-8 interviews, and then north to Jalalabad, the third southern province, for another 7-8 interviews.

It didn’t really work out that way. Osh was great. I had a wonderful contact down there who helped me find people to interview. I took about 9 interviews. I interviewed more people than I originally planned because we got a huge snowstorm the day after Christmas (western Christmas, that is, the Russian Orthodox church celebrates Christmas on January 7^th). There are two roads into Batken province. The better of the two roads goes through Uzbekistan, and I don’t have an Uzbek visa, so that wasn’t an option. The other road is basically a dirt road, and the prospect of driving that in the snow was unappealing. Not to mention dangerous. It’s not that it would be incredibly slippery—that’s the road through Uzbekistan. It would just be very likely that we would get bogged down in rocks and mud.

I decided it wasn’t worth the risk. My contact in Osh was kind enough to inform me about a couple people from Batken province who had come up for a meeting, and I was able to interview two of them. That means I only have three interviews from Batken. That’s unfortunate. But not the end of the world. In the end, it’s my surveys that really absolutely need to be distributed in certain geographic areas, although I really would have like to have seen Batken province. Maybe I’ll go down again once the weather clears, just to see it. It would be too late in my research schedule to do more interviews.

So we stayed to extra days in osh to allow the roads to clear up and to regroup. I actually go a few really good interviews during that time, so I’m glad I stayed. We then went up to Jalalabad and got another 9 interviews. That was to make up for the lost interviews in Batken—I’m already going to have more interviews from the north than from the south, and I didn’t want the difference to be too drastic.

We flew home on New Year’s eve. It’s very cold.

Busy--Going to Be Out of Town

Hey. I'm in the middle of the last part of interviewing, which means I'm crazy busy. I'm trying to get transcriptions of the interviews I've already recorded, translate the transcriptions, and talk to the last few people I need to in order to get the fullest pictuer possible of what is happening here.

I'll be in Yssyk Kol this weekend for a few more interviews. I go down to the southern provinces on the 24th of December. I plan to get about 20 interviews in Osh, Jalalabad and Isfana over a 10-day period or so. I'm not sure how long I'll be down there. It all depends on how quicky I can get the interviews. I have to take into account that I will be there over New Years, which means the majority of people will be drunk (and therefore un-interviewable) for a 5-6 day window.

I'll try to post something next week, but I cant' make any promises. Then I'll be off the map for two weeks or so. I'll start posting regularly again in January.

Happy Holidays!

Election Time

Kyrgyzstan had a popular referendum about a month ago to revise its constitution. I talked to several independent observers who said there were a lot of irregularities and that the voter turnout was pretty low. In fact, I heard the following joke the day after the referendum:

An electoral official goes to his boss and says, “The results of the referendum are in. Eighty-one percent of the population voted.” His boss gets really angry and says, “What are you talking about? We agreed that the number would be 80 percent! Why did you change it?” The official apologized, “It’s just that one percent of the population actually came. We thought we ought to count them.”

Parliamentary elections are coming up December 16^th. Maybe I’m an eternal optimist, but I have greater hopes for these elections than for the referendum. During the Akayev administration (President Askar Akayev was ousted in March 2005), there was really widespread corruption in the legislature. People were basically installed in those positions instead of being elected to them. Most of those people are still in those positions. I think (I hope) that will change in a couple weeks. There are now over 100 political parties in Kyrgyzstan, and that’s growing every day. That much competition means there is a much better chance that people are going to have to form coalitions after they get elected, which means it will be harder to push through bad legislation or to just not do anything.

That is, assuming, that the larger parties just don’t buy up people’s votes this time around. They’ve done that in the past.

Close to Finishing the Interviews

I have to apologize for just putting up other peoples words on the blog lately. I know that is interesting—probably much more interesting that what I have to say—I did promise that I would try to talk about all of the aspects of my fieldwork.

The interview phase of my fieldwork is coming to a close. Right now, I’m in the middle of translating the interviews I have already taken. I’ve recorded 39 interviews so far, and I have at least three more scheduled for this week so far. Interviewing is an interesting thing. You never know how many interviews you’re going to need. I started out estimating that I would need about 100. That moved down to 70 shortly after I got here. Now, I’m thinking between 50 and 60. What you do with interviews is make a list of different topics that you want to understand. When you start interviewing a person, you start with the first topic and ask him or her everything you can about that. When that person has said everything he or she can about that topic, you move onto the next topic that that particular person will be likely to know something about. In an average interview (about 1 to 1 ½ hours long), you cover three or four topics.

After a number of interviews—you can never be sure how many—the first topics on your list get full. New people stop giving you any new information. That’s when you know you’ve probably filled in your understanding of that topic enough to stop asking about it. Then you move onto the topics that people are still saying interesting things about, or to topics you haven’t covered yet. In fact, as you interview people, they will mention a lot of things you never thought of. Those will become new topics to ask about. You just stick them at the end of your list.

My list is now about gone. I stopped getting new information about people’s everyday lives over a month ago. I stopped getting new information about groups like religion, ethnicity, and country about a week or so ago. I’m now just trying to understand social participation: no matter what religion you belong to, why do you decide to give your time, effort, and/or money to it? Why do people decide to sacrifice for their country? Engage in a protest? Become independent observers for an election? The new material for those questions is starting to get slim. Comparatively speaking. I’m still getting a lot of new information, but not as much as I got in the beginning.

I’m going down to the southern provinces of the country (Osh, Jalalabad, and Batken) at the end of this month. I plan on getting about 20 more interviews while I am there, and most of those are going to be with people who are socially active. I think that will finish my interviewing needs.

My next phase is to create a survey based on the information from the interviews. I don’t even want to think about that until I at least have all of my interviews translated.

In Their Own Words: Islam in Kyrgyzstan

This is the Uzbek student again. He takes his religious very seriously. He actually gave better explanations of Islamic doctrines than anyone else I have talked to so far. He feels that there is a big problem with Islam in Kyrgyzstan.

What’s the problem? Islam here in Kyrgyzstan…we [the younger generation] didn’t grow up in the Soviet times. Our parents lived in it for 70 years. The regime was atheistic. They were categorically opposed to any religion. It was all communism. When they achieved independence—the USSR fell apart, so they got independence whether they wanted it or not—Turkey set up an embassy here and other countries too. That’s when Islam started to grow in Kyrgyzstan. But the problem is we have a lot of stereotypes—misinformation about Islam. People aren’t ready…that’s a really big problem right now. Even if you were to go to an imam right now and want to learn about Islam, he’s not going to start with the ABC’s. He start with, “Don’t do this, don’t do that…don’t smoke, don’t drink.” It’s fine to do that, but a person should start with the basics. People here haven’t even held a Bible in their hands, for example. If you ask if they’ve ever even held a Bible, they tell you no. Or the Torah, for example. We just don’t have a dialogue with other religions. Everyone is the same. So I think we need to change that somehow in Kyrgyzstan.

I pointed out that many Muslims had told me that it was a sin to even hold the Bible in their hands.

Do you understand what they think that? It’s because a lot of imams don’t know much themselves…. That’s not what Islam is about. When people in Kyrgyzstan say that it’s sin even to hold the Bible in your hands, that’s not written anywhere. The Bible, the Torah—we’re all children of Abraham. And religion and all of that—we all have one God. It’s just that Christians interpret the Bible one way, Muslims a different way, Jews a different way. What they say here—that’s just hearsay. If you ask them why, they can’t tell you, because there are no facts in support of it. That’s the problem.

We have another problem in that a lot of people aren’t answerable for what they teach. They say that something is not right, for example, that it’s a sin to drink. Yes, everyone knows that, but why? They can’t answer, because they don’t dig deep into the matter, you see? That’s the problem. Because we…the imam says don’t do that, it’s a sin, but we don’t ask why. We don’t ask them to explain in more detail.

The thing that interests me about Islam is why I am a Muslim. It’s not because my parents are Muslims or because someone affected me. It’s because you can find an answer to any question in Islam. What do we do first? If we have a question, we look in the Qur’an. If we can’t find it in the Qur’an, we go to the hadith [the sayings of the prophet]. As long as you take the earlier forms of the hadith. And then after that the 3^rd step is…I forget what it’s called in Arabic…it’s like consensus. Scholars gather and they issue a fatwa. A lot of people don’t know who any of those scholars are. They don’t know why we look at what they said and not at what others have said. Why do we do that? Because some contradict themselves and others have been accepted by the whole world. We have a problem when it comes to sources. A lot of people don’t check their sources. For example, if you go to the mosque here, there’s a lot of book stores. A lot the books have a Tashkent copyright. A lot of people who really understand Islam, they don’t read those books, because Tashkent books are unreliable sources. Karimov’s regime [in Uzbekistan] and a lot of imams in general distort information.

So we have that specific problem right now. Another problem is that we aren’t even on the first step and those people [the reliable sources] are already on the 10^th or 20^th floor, so we can’t understand them. The first step is the creed—the foundational principles. Who is Allah, what are his qualities, why are we Muslims? What is the confession of faith? [“There is no deity except Allah alone, and Muhammad is his messenger.” Saying this is the first, and technically the only, thing that one must do to become a Muslim.] What is that? We don’t understand anything, but we already know what’s forbidden and what’s not. Why is that? Those are very difficult questions with difficult answers. That’s why a lot of people… I talked to a lot of Imams. I asked them if there was any place in Kyrgyzstan where I could find the foundational principles—specifically the foundation stuff. They don’t know, because a lot of Imams can beautifully explain things, but they get mixed up when it comes to basic things. There are a lot of different interpretations of the Qur’an here.

In Their Own Words: Islam and America

This person gave perhaps the best interview I have taken so far. He is an Uzbek from the southern city of Osh. He is now a university student at AUCA. He studied for a year in America. The following is about his experience in California—especially his experience regarding people’s attitudes towards Islam.

In the beginning I was in the southern part of California, because my classes were supposed to start September 27 but we got there on August 14^th. I spent a week in Washington, then we went to southern California. It was really hard for me there—culture shock, first time in America. That’s understandable. Well, I was interested in going to a mosque, but my host wouldn’t let me go. As you know, there’s a problem with transportation in America. Especially in California [you need a car to get anywhere]. I didn’t even know that I could…the town I was in isn’t a big town, but because of the lack of transportation, I had a problem. My host parents refused to take me to a mosque. I asked if I could just go once, just to see the architecture, see American Muslims. They said September 11^th was coming up and they didn’t want there to be any conflicts. They said maybe they’d take me later. I was in shock. I said, “This is America—that land of the free. Why would there be a conflict if you take me there? It seems that’s actually a good thing. You’re showing me how Muslims in America live.” They categorically refused. I said, “Welcome to America.”

I thought I wouldn’t be able to go to a mosque for the whole year. I was really disappointed. But then I went to the North. East Bay is in the bay area. I fell in love with it. That place isn’t similar to any other place in America. I told a lot of Americans about that region and they said I was lucky that I lived there, not because there are a lot of Muslims, but because the people there are different. If you compare north and south California, the north has more Democrats. The south has more Republicans. They think differently about a lot of things. In the north, it was still hard for me for about a month after I arrived. There were classes, a new location, the credit system. Some time in October, during the month of Ramadan, I started to keep the fast. I didn’t know that the university had a Muslim Student Association. It turns out there’s one in every university. I didn’t know, I just fasted. I didn’t know anyone else who was. We have a tradition that when you break your fast, you do that with your friends. They [the other Muslim students] did that on campus in the student union building. There was only about a week of Ramadan left when I happened to meet some guys that were also fasting and one of them was the president of MSA. They told me to come to the union building. I came and there were a lot of Muslims there. I hadn’t known.

After that my life started to get totally better. My life was perfect from October to June. I went to a lot of mosques. When I had been in southern California, I thought that after 9/11 there was now a lot of discrimination against Muslims, like after Pearl Harbor with the Japanese in California. I thought it was the same thing with Muslims, not at the same level, but that there was some indirect discrimination going on. When I came to the north I really saw that any religion is welcomed. You have freedom of choice. Life in America changed me, in that I became more aware, and in relation to my religion…the Islam I found in America was more real than the Islam here in Kyrgyzstan.

In Their Own Words: Why People Engage in Corruption

This is a student in Bishkek. He’s from Batken, the southernmost—as the poorest—of Kyrgyzstan’s seven provinces. We got to talking about corruption. Nearly everyone I have talked to here says that people in general, and especially government leaders, are corrupt. It’s just a widespread assumption that people take bribes, get their relatives and other supporters into powerful positions, and generally act dishonestly. This student was unusually honest about how he, personally, relates to all of that.

I want to be honest, fair, but that’s going to be hard, I think. I could be lying to myself. I’m afraid I’m lying, that I’m saying right now that I’m going to be honest and fair, but then some situation will come up where I’ll have to lie a little or…but I’m going to try not to do that, because…I don’t know. I just that people—and maybe I don’t understand the ins and outs of it—but if I understood, maybe I’d talk different. Maybe I’d say that I could do this little dishonest thing and get a lot of money from it. I just know a lot of people who say if you do certain things you can make a lot of money—through corruption or something else—you can do that. I’m afraid with time I will change. People always change in the face of other people’s influence. First of all they see the opportunity to make some money. It pulls them, attracts them. They make an excuse, “Ok, I’ll do it this time, but not any more.” And then, the gradually come to like it. Then they have some kind of need. They want to fulfill that need, but they can only do it that way [through corruption]. These are obvious things. They’re everywhere. Honestly I’m afraid. You become more aware of things, maybe I’ll have some things I really need. I don’t know, I don’t want it to be that way. I’d like to have enough without that. I’m just afraid that if I don’t have enough of something, I’ll start looking for a way to…I can’t say I won’t look for way, if they offer to…I don’t know. One side says take it. The other side says “No, stop.” I’d make myself feel better by saying, “Oh, but look how many other people do it. I’ll do it too.” That’s how you feel when you go along with the majority—that’s how it is with corruption—a lot of people are doing it. How are they going to find out about me? I’m not alone. There are hundreds of people doing it.

In Their Own Words: Religion and Ethnicity

This is the girl from the last post--the one who converted to Islam. Here, she talks about how people view religion and race, and how they often mean the same things in people's minds.

When people find out I am a Muslim, they don’t understand it. Right away they…as if…“how could you accept it? You’re not part of that religion.” For them, to be Muslim means to be Asia—that is, your physical appearance should look Muslim. For a lot of people that’s a really strong stereotype. One time I went to the bazaar and bought some clothes. The vendor was Kyrgyz and his nephew was standing there—he was probably my age. I had little Muslim pendant on. He looked. I live here, so I naturally understand Kyrgyz. He says, “Look, the Russian is wearing a Muslim pendant.” His first thought was that I was some unconscionable Russian that was wearing a Muslim pendant. His uncle hit him and said, “Get out of here.” He understood that I understood, and apologized. I said don’t worry about it. I called the nephew over and said, “I’m a Muslim. Don’t think that I wear this pendant just as some kind of jewelry.” He said he thought I didn’t know what it meant. I said he should just assume things like that about people. I talked to him a little about it. A few people think things like that and they want to say it. Some do say it. And I often don’t wear that pendant. On public transportation people often see it and think its so out of the ordinary and strange. It’s hard for me. I can’t say anything to them. I walk up to every other person on the street and say, “I’m a Muslim…I’m a Muslim…Don’t stare at me…Don’t stare at me…” It’s hard to say that to everyone. You walk around and think, “Do I need to make a sign that says I’m a Muslim? Leave me alone.” But, you know, it would be hard for me to live either way. On one hand I feel on the inside that I am a Muslim, but on the other hand to be a Christian so people just calmed down and looked at me like any other Russian girl—I can’t do that either. But to walk around in a headscarf or hijab…although like I already said that’s not a problem for me. I’m a Muslim. I can do that. But to have everyone point their fingers…it’s hard.

In their Own Words: Islam, Conversion, and Ethnicity

This is a long entry, but I think it's worth it. This is a Russian university student who converted to Islam. She also married an Uzbek who is a devout Muslim. She talks about some of the challenges she has faced because of her decision to convert. Oh, and she's only 18 years old. Notice that a lot of her challenges come from her nationality. People have made her decision difficult for her because she is now Muslim and Russian. I've noticed this a lot. Many people say that being Kyrgyz and being Muslim are the same thing. If you are one, then you are supposed to be the other.

First of all, my socialization took place in a Muslim society. In our country the religion is Muslim. I was born here and grew up in this environment, and in general I only interacted with Muslim children. Throughout my childhood while growing up I didn’t know a single Russian tradition. Although my passport says I’m Russian, my father was a Tatar and my mother was Greek. I didn’t know Russian traditions at all. More than anything I learned about Muslim traditions. So I grew up in that kind of space. It is easier for me to understand this culture than the one that really relates to me. In time, I started to understand that it was a lot easier for me to live in this religion than in the Christian religion.

But that’s just one reason why I converted to Islam. It’s easier for me to live in this Muslim society and keep Muslim traditions. Second, I married an Uzbek. For the present time, things have worked out that I needed to accept Islam. Well, it didn’t just work out that way…I decided for myself. I accepted Islam for him. But the problem is, he’s from Osh. Muslim traditions in Bishkek are very different from those in Osh. Here, people are more loyal—they deal with things more liberally, more simply. A Russian girl and an Uzbek guy are normal here. But there it’s different. There, the traditions are kept very strictly. Wavering from the traditions is like death. His parents have been tormenting us for two years. They don’t want to accept me. They don’t care that I’ve accepted Islam, or that I pray five times a day. It doesn’t mean anything to them. They need a pure-blooded Uzbek girl, no impurities, nothing. That’s the biggest problem. They have very strong prejudices when it comes to Russians. They’ve never interacted with Russians and they have big stereotypes based on what they see on television. To be Russian means you drink a lot.

They haven’t even seen me. They don’t want to. They don’t allow me to come to the door step. They think I’m a girl of easy virtue, because I’m Russian. And no matter what anyone says, it’s all the same…they don’t have any reason, they just think reasons up. They just want to protect the purity of their nation. If you compare Uzbeks who live in Osh with Uzbeks who live in the capital of Uzbekistan, they are completely different people. It’s the same think with Kyrgyz in Bishkek. They try to improve themselves. Here, Kyrgyz try to speak in Russian. But in the villages, they try to keep the traditions more sternly, because that's their way of life. Here people try to improve themselves and strive for more cultural growth. The same thing in the capital of Uzbekistan—they speak in Russian there too. It’s different with the people who live in Osh. They are very religious. That keep their religion so firmly that it just shocks me.

For example, for my husband, religion is a big part of his life. He pays special attention to it. And it’s really a problem because he can’t go against his parents. That respect is important for him. If they say something, that means there’s wisdom in it. Although he knows that they don’t have any particular reasons. That’s the problem. And I didn’t change my religion in the first place just so they would believe me. I converted because…I personally feel better this way. My father was a Tatar and I ought to be a Muslim. During my socialization I realized that that was my culture.

I asked how she met her husband.

That’s a different story. I was studying here as a freshman. We have a free internet here, and I met him over the internet. He studied for a year in Turkey. He was in Turkey and we met here. We corresponded for five months, found common interests. Later, when he flew home to Osh, he came to Bishkek first. There are no flights directly to Osh. We met and started to get to know each other. But I only saw him about five times during two years. He came here two times, I came to Osh two times…just for 2 or three days at a time. That’s how it worked out. In reality, we had some really big problems. We tried to break up, because the moral pressure from his parents was really hard. And it was hard for him because, no matter how much he tried to convince them, no matter how many times he begged, they were against it. His parents still don’t know that we’re married, because it would be a terrible blow for them. But they don’t do anything to even try. They have that one point and that’s it, there no going on from there. He left home, said he was going to Turkey. But he was actually here. We got married, but we hide it. Right now he’s gone home, as if he’s just come back from Turkey. But they…I mean, he called me on his second day there and said, “I don’t fit in here. No one understands me. It’s as if I was a criminal, they keep asking me if I was in Bishkek. I’m public enemy number one. It’s like world war three.” It’s a tragedy for them. I don’t know. Their family isn’t…well he has an older brother too…oh, we can use his older brother as an example. They married him off according to tradition. According to their traditions, the mother goes and chooses a wife and he marries her. That’s how they married off his brother. I wouldn’t say that he’s very happy. Basically, his life isn’t working out for him that well and he’s very cold toward his family. That a resting their hopes on the younger son, on my husband, that he’s act like a true Uzbek and do everything his parents say. Because he respects his parents above anything else, but it won’t do any good for him or his parents. They don’t understand how many people they’re ruining. And not to mention that girl that they would marry him to—that would just be hard. And especially when…I know that they talk about me a lot there. I know they have stereotypes and they can’t get away from them. They don’t want to meet me, they feel that I’m a girl of easy virtue, and that’s it. They don’t want to think any more about it. They lived their whole lives in their religion, in their circle, in those borders. They haven’t ever gone any place—they’ve never seen a different way of life. They feel that, if their ancestors lived like that, then they should live just like they did. My husband for example…none of them has gone anywhere, but he went to Turkey. He wants to make something of his life. Just to sit in the provinces and marry a girl he doesn’t want to marry—that’s a problem. He calls me and says, “I’ve become a foreigner. They don’t understand me here and they don’t even try.” His parents say, “We’re your parents. That means we know what’s best for you.”

I asked her what she would do it his parents suddenly called him and told him that they had found a wife for him.

Oh. I don’t know, to tell you the truth. We’ve tried so many times to break up, but it just didn’t work out. I don’t think it will happen. We’d make it for three months, and that’s it. I would go to him or he would come to me. Personally, I think his mother is going to do that. She’s sick of me being in his life, that I haven’t disappeared. She thinks she’ll find someone and that’s it. She’ll do that, go and personally find a wife for him. I don’t want to ruin anyone’s life either, if he decides that’s best. Right now he’s just torn between me and his parents. And he can’t betray his religious principles of respecting his parents. But just to give up and live like his parents say, to put him in that box…he can’t win either way. But if he decides to marry that other girl, he knows that won’t lead to anything good. It may be easier on his parents, but it won’t be easier for him or that girl.

I asked how she would feel if it happened.

How could I feel? It would be hard, of course. I don’t know. Naturally, it would be a big blow for me. But because of all of these worries I took a break from school last year. I just couldn’t take it, I laid in the hospital with a nervous disorder, with depression. It was just really hard in general. I broke down my health and everything else. My mother loves [my husband] and it was really hard for her too, he’s like another child in the family. I’m her only child and she naturally wants me to be happy, so it was hard. And because of all that my studies aren’t going too well right now, although as a freshman, when I still hadn’t met him, I was a very good student. Now it’s really hard, and the problems are still building up. And this biggest problem is that I tried, through my husband…I said, let me meet your parents, get acquainted. I’m not against that. Maybe I can try to break the stereotypes they have of me. They don’t know me at all. They should understand. They look, and all they see is Russia. Everyone drinks there. First of all, I wasn’t born in Russia. I was born here, I grew up here, I’m a Muslim. For me, those kinds of behaviors that I see in Russian, they aren’t acceptable for me either. But that fact that I’m not really Russian, they don’t care.

I asked if her decision was worth all the problems it had caused.

They all talk that way. People who know me well say that it’s not worth it. Those two years that I went through, everyone said that it’s not worth it. They always say that, “Oh, you’ll find someone better.” That’s even harder to take. Why would I live through two years of this just to give it all up and say, “Oh, well. I’ll throw it all out and start again.” Why did I start it all then? Of course, when I first met my husband, I said, “I know your traditions. It’s going to be hard.” He agreed. But then you see what happened. Now he can’t decide anything—I basically decide everything. I try to do something. The most offensive things was when he left, he had to pretend that he had just come back from Turkey. He literally left on Monday. We had to go buy some gifts. All of fall break I went around and bought gifts for them. I basically bought gifts for people who don’t like me. And then I call and ask, “Did they like the gifts?” “Of course,” he says. I think, yeah, they like the gifts but they don’t like me.

I asked her why she did all of this--went through all of this.

You have to understand, I know how my husband was raised. His parents raised him very well. In fact, they should be proud that they taught him to be such a good person. And if you are a Muslim, and you feel you are a Muslim, you have to keep all the traditions and do not only as you have to, but as you feel. For example, he never goes to mosque just because he is supposed to. He does it from his heart. They raised him very well. I understand his manners, from the way he acts, that they have a very good family. I analyzed all of this, and I don’t have anything I can say against them. Of course, it would be strange for me to suddenly meet them and start a conversation. It’s really hard to convince people of the opposite of what they have been convinced their whole life. If they think that I’m that way, I don’t understand how to change their mind. But I don’t feel anything really bad towards them. For me, if he’s my husband, then they are my relatives. I’m not used to just feeling that way about people. If I don’t know a person, then he’s a stranger to me. I really enjoyed buying them gifts. I imagined how his nephew would like a toy, so I bought it. It was actually really enjoyable for me.

I asked her why she was willing to sacrifice so much for her husband.

Well, I just sacrifice. For me, it’s not entirely a sacrifice. It’s part of my life. I sacrifice in that I know that we won’t get past their prejudices. I don’t know. I do a lot for my husband. I know how hard it is for him. I try to make his life nicer, I try to help him. There’s not a lot of ways I can help, of course, but I try.

And finally, to give you an idea of just how far she would go to be accepted into her husband's family, and just how unwilling they are (and why they are unwilling):

We didn’t solve the problem by getting married. We may not be able to solve one our own, just by asking and trying to convince them. Those feelings aren’t solvable. I was always convinced that you can solve any problem, even if you can just find one way. There is a way, but the only way I’ve found they won’t accept. I’m ready. I told them I wouldn’t ask their son to live away from them, here in Bishkek. I’m wiling to move to Osh and live with them. I’d do anything they want. If they want me to look more Uzbek, I can go to a tanning salon and make my skin darker, I can die my hair black, I can make my eyes look more Uzbek, I can wear a hijab…it doesn’t make a difference to me. The most important thing for me is that they believe me. If it’s important for me to look Uzbek…but the most important thing for them is to not mix the blood. And the problem isn’t just in their family. They’re afraid…they’re all relatives. All of their neighbors are related to them as well. Everyone says that…Uigurs, Uzbeks, they’re all relatives. The opinion of other people who know them is very important. “They’ll lose all respect for us.” It’s not just their stereotype, its belongs to everyone who lives there. In their Mahallah [an administrative region] everyone knows everyone else. They’re afraid if they allow our marriage, everyone is going to judge their family and their decision. New spreads so quickly there. Everyone would know and everyone would remember, point their fingers, judge. And then no one would accept our children there. Even if I take on their entire culture, live with them, sooner or later even my children…if I agree that my daughter also needs to marry an Uzbek, no one would take her. And our family would suffer because of that. Everyone would stop respecting us, because they all have the same opinion. It’s one thing to convince their family, it’s a different thing to convince the entire city. It’s just not right. The problem is that they demand that you live that way and don’t think—don’t even imaging—that they could be another way. I don’t know.

In Their Own Words: How People Know It's the Government 's Fault

People blame a lot of their ills on the government. Here is a college student explaining how she knows that the government is to blame for many of the bad things happening in Kyrgyzstan. Notice that she can't give a clear connection between social ills and government. It's an assumption, not evidence.

Researcher: In your opinion, what do you need in this country to maintain a minimum standard of living?

Informant: In my opinion, you would have to change the government first.

Researcher: Why?

Informant: Because if we had a president like Putin—as far as I’ve noticed, Putin raises teachers’ wages every month, raises the pensions. Here, they say they’re going to raise it, and then they don’t do anything.

Researcher: Why don’t they do it?

Informant: Because they just say that they are going to do it. They take money from other countries, and then say they’re going to give it to the teachers, raise pensions. Then they put it in their own pockets.

Researcher: How do you think this country will change in 10 years?

Informant: I think you need to change the government.

Researcher: Have you always thought that, if things are bad in a country, that it is the government’s fault? How did you come to have that opinion?

Informant: If the government wasn’t as bad as it is, why would recent graduates all go abroad? If the government set good wages, people would stay here. They would improve this country. But, for example, teacher’s, doctors—they have a very low wage. They are all going abroad. I have an aunt who is a pediatrician, she lives in Cokuluk—not far from Bishkek. Last year she went to Almaty to work. The worked there, and then came back. Now she’s getting ready to go again.

Researcher: Do people do that often?

Informant: Yes. Even school teachers often go to Russia to sell things.